There are women who believe they have the “mystery” that are men covered. After all, don’t men just think about sex, sports, video games, food … and more sex?!
Believe it or not, guys think about women in ways that don’t always involve the bedroom. Having coached hundreds of men during the courtship process (and dozens of women), below are five truths about the way men think.
What Men Want, Think & Mean
1. When it comes to makeup, less is ALWAYS more. Men love seeing what you truly look like — especially in the morning. In fact, today, men see large amounts of makeup as a sign of insecurity, vanity and high-maintenance.
And the ironic thing is guys think you look hottest in running shoes and your workout outfit — the time you think you look the least put together. It should explain why guys approach you when you’re wearing your sweatpants and flip flops on your “I don’t care what I look like” day.
2. Although men care about physical beauty, what really matters is inner-beauty. If you are ugly on the inside, no amount of lipgloss can detract from it. Superficial beauty may catch men’s eyes, but natural beauty keeps it.
By Thomas Edwards, Founder of The Professional Wingman
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If you’re sitting on the dating sidelines for a while because you have recently ended a relationship or marriage, you haven’t had the interest, or you’re just fed up and plain sick of it, maybe now is the time to get out there and meet someone great! As a Professional Matchmaker and founder of Samantha’s Table Matchmaking, I have some useful tips on getting back into the dating world:
- Once deciding to go back to dating, you need to start with a positive attitude. If you are optimistic about meeting someone, you will have more of a chance of making that happen.
- Think about giving yourself a dating makeover so you feel good about yourself and how you look. It doesn’t have to be anything extravagant. Try a new haircut, a new lipstick, or just a different “dating outfit.” It doesn’t matter what it is, just go out there looking a little different and you are bound to have some results.
- Reach out to your friends, family and colleagues and let them know that “you are back.” Most people are busy with their own lives, it’s time you let them know what is going on in your life. Tell them that you are open, interested and available to be introduced to someone if they think of anyone.
- Spend that $20 or $30 and try online dating. Maybe you had a bad experience in the past, but these are new times. With a positive and revitalized attitude things might be different this time around. Or if you have never tried it, give it a go! Many people have met their significant other this way.
- Schedule an appointment with a Matchmaker and at the very least get some good dating advice from that professional. Matchmakers like myself have been listening and observing what works and what doesn’t work when it comes to dating for years. Schedule a meeting and pick that Matchmaker’s brain.
- Ask a close but also straightforward friend to be brutally honest and tell you what they think might be an impediment when you get back out there to date. Ask them to critique you in an honest and helpful way so you can put you best foot forward.
- I remember what my grandmother said: “You get invited, you go, and you never know who you are going to meet.” Hence, whenever you get invited out, whether it’s a party, a gathering, a dinner, etc., even if you don’t feel like going, you go. You put on that pretty dress, a smile and positive attitude and you head out the door because “you never know…”
|Samantha Daniels is a professional matchmaker, television, personality, author, entrepreneur and founder of Samantha’s Table, a matchmaking service. A former matrimonial attorney, in 1999 Daniels left the world of divorce behind and founded her matchmaking service in New York City, quickly expanding to elite clientele on the west coast.In 2004 Daniels life became the basis for NBC’s hit show Miss Match starring Alicia Silverstone. Daniels a writer for The Huffington Post and in 2005 authored Matchbook: the Diary of a Modern-Day Matchmaker.|
Samantha Daniels, Matchmaker & Dating Expert
Samantha Daniels is one of the foremost professional matchmakers and dating experts in the country. She owns the bicoastal matchmaking service called Samantha’s Table.
From Making Cases to Making Marriages: 100+ & Counting
Samantha is Ivy League-educated and a lawyer by trade, and has an uncanny ability to know who goes well with whom. As a professional matchmaker, she has been responsible for over 100 marriages and thousands of substantial relationships. She is a frequently relied-upon dating and relationship expert, and is seen regularly on television, on the radio, and in national newspapers and magazines.
Hollywood Comes Calling—Miss Match Played by Alicia Silverstone
Samantha has been a national spokesperson for a number of consumer brands, including Crest, Oral B, and Febreze. She was also the inspiration for and a producer on the NBC/Darren Star dramedy, Miss Match, starring Alicia Silverstone. The show was based on her life story. She is the author of Matchbook: The Diary of a Modern-Day Matchmaker.
Spreading the Dating Gospel According to Samantha Daniels
Currently, Samantha writes a popular blog on the Huffington Post as well as her own very popular dating blog, Matchmaker in the Know.